Putting Manners on a Feminist

'Write about what disturbs you'

keepcalm-anddontpanic:

ursulavernon:

mockingday:

Watch Emma’s speech and take action

Emma Watson is a badass.

Best thing about this is because she’s so famous more people will hear about this speech. I actually saw one guy showing it to another guy in my class! The same class that was really awkward during our feminism class! Maybe there’s a bit of hope!

prettybooks:

It’s Banned Books Week!I think I speak for all of us when I say that challenging or banning books just makes us want to read them more. Here’s what I’ve been reading this week so far on the subject of books and censorship:

Banned Books Week.orgThe Top 10 Challenged TitlesBooks Challenged or Banned 2012-2013 11 Quotes From Authors On Censorship & Banned Books15 Books Banned For The Most Absurd Reasons Ever12 Crazy Reasons Why Books Have Been Banned12 Signs You’re A Banned Book ReaderOn the “Banned” Wagon: The Month in Book ChallengesAmerica’s Most Surprising Banned Books A Chat With Rainbow Rowell About Love and CensorshipPenguin Presents: Authors Stand Up for Free SpeechPatrick Ness’s Top 10 ‘Unsuitable’ Books for TeenagersGiving Voice to the Voiceless: Author Ellen Hopkins

thewalkingmapal:

sizvideos:

Video

WHAT THE FUCK THIS IS THE SADDEST THING I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY FUCKING LIFE NO GET OUT OMG I’M CRYING

(via between-johnlock-and-sterek)

“Feminism is not about who opens the jar.

It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.

It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.

But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it.”

“In this cult of female martyrdom, where caring for our own well being is always last on our to-do list, it is easy to feel selfish when we do care for ourselves. But being kind to yourself, banishing negative body-talk, taking necessary time away from work, feeding your body with food that makes it happy, taking a morning for spiritual growth, doing one activity you enjoy just because you enjoy it—these things are not selfish! For so long, women have been socialized around the idea of “guilty pleasures”. Female pleasure–whether it is related to sex, food, or even an activity–must be categorized into “good” and “bad” categories. We are taught to feel “guilty” for “indulging,” but often these indulgences are normal, healthy expressions of desire. Common guilty pleasures include: food seen as “bad,” like cake, French fries, or chocolate; reading an erotic romance novel; skipping the gym to watch Netflix in bed; taking a bubble bath to decompress rather than tackling your mountain of homework. These guilty pleasures are fairly normal activities. For women, things that we enjoy doing are labeled “indulgence,” and we chastise ourselves for being “bad” if we do them. Indulgence sounds dirty, but most of our “guilty pleasure indulgences” are simply acts self-care. Self-care is not bad. Self-care is not selfish. Our lives do not have to follow the script of obedience.”

Colombia wants more convictions for violence against women

smellslikegirlriot:

Of the 637 women killed in Colombia so far this year, 83 were femicides – defined as the killing of a woman by a man because of her gender - government figures show.

Femicide is a widespread problem in Latin America as a whole, according to a 2012 report by the Small Arms Survey, an independent research project in Geneva, based on figures from 2004 to 2009. More than half the 25 countries with the highest femicide rates are in the Americas

daggerpen:

monicalewinsky1996:

Trigger warning: Breakfast

(via jarrydwillis)

thisisableism:

[Image Description: The cartoon child depicted asks their mother: “Momma how come Daddy never cooks or cleans?”
The mother responds: “The division of labour which allows for men like your father to generate an excess of his labour which is assigned a higher capital than ours, despite its necessity and importance, thus allowing him a more privileged social status and to maintain this division of labour. This is a root of the patriarchy.”]
solarmetronome:

shaunadarling:

solarmetronome:

Based on this (x). Conclusion: they’re still fuckers. 

Or maybe daddy works all week to provide us money for food and clothes

Because daddy’s labour is arbitrarily placed at a higher value and the work he does all week is no more important or legitimate than domestic labour. The capital value of the same relative labour is dependent on the gender of the person its performed by, and the capital values of different, specific kinds of labour, are dependent on the gender of the person who usually performs them in a society. The work easily available to women is priced cheap or free, and the work women have to struggle harder to get is still worth less capital than that same work when performed by men. 
In short, daddy gets to choose what he gets to work on, and the job he gets to choose can easily generate more than enough money to feed and shelter more than one person.  In this scenario, women still have to do work, but are often forced to depend on others to support them, let alone able to consider supporting others with their labour. 
In some cases, men might actually prefer their wives to do even less in terms of domestic labour, because it will be a symbol of conspicuous leisure, which is the mark of status. Women doing no work at all only happens if daddy has so much money and power that he wants to show it to people by how he can support a family with even less work on their part. 
A society directing women to be dependent on men, who like their women that way, is definitively a patriarchy, and the division of labour between men and women continues to reinforce gender inequality even today. 
Hopefully you can see more of the repercussions of EXACTLY WHAT WAS IMPLIED IN THE ORIGINAL POST now. 

thisisableism:

[Image Description: The cartoon child depicted asks their mother: “Momma how come Daddy never cooks or cleans?”

The mother responds: “The division of labour which allows for men like your father to generate an excess of his labour which is assigned a higher capital than ours, despite its necessity and importance, thus allowing him a more privileged social status and to maintain this division of labour. This is a root of the patriarchy.”]

solarmetronome:

shaunadarling:

solarmetronome:

Based on this (x). Conclusion: they’re still fuckers. 

Or maybe daddy works all week to provide us money for food and clothes

Because daddy’s labour is arbitrarily placed at a higher value and the work he does all week is no more important or legitimate than domestic labour. The capital value of the same relative labour is dependent on the gender of the person its performed by, and the capital values of different, specific kinds of labour, are dependent on the gender of the person who usually performs them in a society. The work easily available to women is priced cheap or free, and the work women have to struggle harder to get is still worth less capital than that same work when performed by men. 

In short, daddy gets to choose what he gets to work on, and the job he gets to choose can easily generate more than enough money to feed and shelter more than one person.  In this scenario, women still have to do work, but are often forced to depend on others to support them, let alone able to consider supporting others with their labour. 

In some cases, men might actually prefer their wives to do even less in terms of domestic labour, because it will be a symbol of conspicuous leisure, which is the mark of status. Women doing no work at all only happens if daddy has so much money and power that he wants to show it to people by how he can support a family with even less work on their part.

A society directing women to be dependent on men, who like their women that way, is definitively a patriarchy, and the division of labour between men and women continues to reinforce gender inequality even today. 

Hopefully you can see more of the repercussions of EXACTLY WHAT WAS IMPLIED IN THE ORIGINAL POST now. 

(via thegoodlady)

warrenbuchholz:

Stop Victim Blaming campaign poster series.

(Source: warrenbuchholz, via upworthy)

mandy-peeters:

As a protest against sexual assault, Emma Sulkowicz will drag a dorm room mattress around until her alleged rapist leaves campus.

mandy-peeters:

As a protest against sexual assault, Emma Sulkowicz will drag a dorm room mattress around until her alleged rapist leaves campus.

nolongervictimsconfessionsmst:

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